I really don't like confrontation and conflict. I avoid it if possible, unless it means compromising values I hold dear. So, Halloween is a yucky time of year to me, since discussions concerning it seem to abound and dear friends of ours are on both sides of the topic. Now, I love the fall. My birthday and James' are in the autumn, the leaves are changing colors, there is cooler weather, football, and family celebrations that all make it special to me. I dread the end of the month though, when Halloween is around the corner, because I really don't like the holiday. Since I was a little girl, I have been uncomfortable with it. We did trick-or-treating for a few years, then my parents felt convicted that we probably shouldn't anymore, and I don't remember any great feeling of loss, since I wasn't crazy about it anyway.
There are tons of reasons why folks abstain from celebrating, or embrace Halloween, and you can google them and read articles on both sides for hours. However, I'm just sharing our personal family conviction here. I'm not asking for anyone to endorse it or disagree, but wanted to put it in writing, since this year we've had to explain it better to our kids, who had more questions than in years past, and this is how we did it. This is lengthy, and has taken days to finish, so read when you can.
This verse was a major factor in our thought process over the years in parenting and just living. As a family, we attempt to keep our focus on things that are good and pure, every single day of our lives, and think our focus should be the same even on holidays. Halloween might not bring thoughts of evil witches and Satan worship to you, and you may enjoy simply trick-or-treating as a family, or get really into the decorations and ghosts and goblins and all, which you think are lots of fun. However, to us, there's just really nothing fun about spookiness, creatures that are ugly, or associated with the dead, or the all-out gross things that are so prevalent in stores this time of year. Regardless of any deep 'proof' of whether Halloween is right or wrong for the Christian family, we just don't see why anyone would want to surround themselves with things like this. There is enough ugliness in the world that is real, that we don't feel any need to add more stuff into our lives and home to remind us of it on a daily basis.
A sweet friend was sharing recently about how when in doubt on a topic that may not be clearly discussed in the Bible, she prefers to always do the thing which seems like it would be most likely to please the Lord. It was a good point - When in doubt, don't. I think that's reasonable and makes sense. I try to really think whether or not Jesus would participate in choices that I make, whether that sounds silly to some or not. Would he watch the television shows or movies I might, would he listen to the conversations of gossip I do, would he laugh at children in witch and ghost costumes, or would these things sadden him? He has suffered enough for me, and I am determined to try and not cause Him any more pain or grief by choices I make. I do blow it sometimes, and I'm very aware of that. I've had to apologize, several times, just this week for words that were unkind and actions that didn't please Him, so I don't pretend to have it all together. It's just something I'm working on and I don't need more to repair, so want to get this right, now.
Also, using moderation has been discussed on this topic and I agree that moderation is absolutely important in some areas. However, there cannot be moderation in adultery, drunkenness, gossip, or other obvious sinful activities, so that isn't a valid excuse to participate in just anything. Associating with things that are even thought by others who are like-minded believers as evil or anti-God should be enough warning to carefully consider whether it's beneficial or not to our Christian walk and to our testimony. I do think it damages our integrity to say we love God and want to live for Him, but then we do things just like the world does, and defend it as fun, or for the kids, or all about the candy. That really is a hedonistic, selfish sentiment, and not something very godly either. We aren't supposed to blend in and look like the rest of the world, so I don't ever want to use "Everybody's doing it" as an excuse. Believe me, it would be easier to participate and dress my kids up and celebrate this weekend like many folks I love. I also don't think we should try to be as weird as possible to be God-honoring Christians. If the reason for our actions is to glorify us, or call attention to ourselves, then our motives aren't pure, so I have to keep pondering that too. My brain gets tired, just thinking about it all, but I suppose that is the Holy Spirit challenging and stretching me, and it's a good thing.
If you really haven't considered the background on this holiday, or why it's now celebrated as it is, or what those who are against our Christian beliefs think of it, you should read some articles on wikipedia or many other online resources. Whether or not you think Halloween is a day for witches and Satanists to celebrate or not, there is great rejoicing going on by those who love evil and not good. I'm just repulsed by the haunted houses all over, and the fascination with death right now. There are many pagans, non-Christians, and actual followers of witchcraft or sorcery who sincerely believe that communicating with the dead is much easier at this time of year due to the barrier between our world and the spiritual realm being easier to cross during the Halloween season. That should give us some pause. The Bible adamantly opposes witchcraft and sorcery and demonic spirits, and warns of their very real presence, so I would rather steer as far away from these things as possible, and not get as close to them as I can, even under the pretense of "fun."
Here are questions we personally had to ask, and believe me, I'm looking at several areas in my life, not just Halloween. Yuck. It's hard to be convicted, but I am, and wanted to share what I'm learning.
If we believe Jesus is life and came to give us life beyond anything this world can offer, why would a holiday focused on death and gruesomeness appeal to a believer?
When the world fully embraces something, shouldn't that cause a believer to carefully evaluate whether or not he should do the same?
Since there is so much good in serving and loving others that we could be doing, should we waste time on things that don't do that?
God is worthy of myriads of angels praising Him for eternity. So, we should be more focused on honoring Him anyway, then devoting time to any activity that doesn't glorify Him, or witness of His goodness to others. Isn't anything else really just a waste of time?
I'll close with the Bible. If I've been totally wrong or offensive up to this point, hopefully these verses will still be taken properly. These are Scriptures that are some of my favorites of all time. I have them on index cards, in a notebook, and in a file on my computer, to read and meditate on often. It's neat how they seem to have a recurring theme, which I guess means that I've had to drill them into my head so I can keep trying to live out what I say I believe. They further remind me to stick to my convictions.
Psalm 34:14 Depart from evil and do good; Seek peace and pursue it. (So, avoid it if it even might be evil, and do the right thing!)
